No.1 Your BS
Although you’re focused on making the best possible impression on her friends so that they take to you like a hyperactive kid reaching for a chocolate bar, don’t try too hard because her friends will see right through it. It’s much better to cut out all the BS and get real. Any exaggerated stories to make you look good or overused charm will come across tacky. Plus, they’ll be wondering what you’re trying to steal their attention away from with the facade. In other words, what are you hiding about your real personality? It’s much better to keep it genuine from the first moment instead of trying to win them over with theatrics. The latter might have worked on your girlfriend but these objective friends aren’t seeing you through love-tinted glasses.
No.2 What You Bring Out In Her
Do you make your girlfriend seem more fun, happier and at ease? How you treat your girlfriend is one thing, but what her friends see in her when she’s around you is even more telling. They’re going to be looking for positive changes you bring to her life and personality when you’re around. If your girlfriend is biting her lip because you’re embarrassing her with your macho swagger or she seems a bit pissed off because you’re ogling one of her friends, they’ll notice this body language and make a mental note of it. If she’s not happy with you from what they can tell, how can they be?
No.3 Your Manners
This is a crucial one. Remember the bit about leaving your crass, rude friends at home? Well, that applies to you, too. Ensure that you bring your most polite persona to the dinner table, becausemanners are underrated. No matter how handsome, charming or entertaining you are, if you don’t treat people with respect and politeness, you will fail to make a good impression. Manners don’t only apply to your girlfriend and her friends but to any outsiders, too, such as the car guards, waiters or barman. Pretend you’re meeting her folks if it helps to keep your manners in check.
No.4 Your Finances
When it comes to glimpses into your finances, be careful to avoid two extremes that can be equally damaging: bragging about money or revealing that you don’t have any. Regarding the former, avoid telling everyone about your latest work project that is set to make you millions or the flashy new car you bought (and showing them pictures of it on your phone). This will just make you appear arrogant and shallow. On the other extreme, bumming your girlfriend for drinks or laughing about how you don’t have a job or any money to your name will make her friends think that you’re just riding on your girlfriend’s coattails. Although they might not be interested in how much money you have, they don’t want to think that you’re not self-sufficient.
No.5 Your Clinginess
Perhaps you and your girlfriend usually make like Velcro and fur when you’re out on the town, but when meeting her friends, don’t assume that you should be overly loving toward her. Yes, they want to be reassured that you care for her (a bit of affection always goes down well), but you don’t want to be clingy with her physically -- or emotionally, for that matter. Don’t be keeping an eye on her when she notices the group of handsome men that enter the restaurant or club, don’t stick to her during a night out or make like you have to be around her every five seconds. This will make her friends think you’re a jealous/possessive type. In other words: not good news for their friend.
No.6 Your Appearance
First impressions are made within five seconds of meeting someone, and one of the first things that is scanned is how you’re dressed. But it goes deeper than this. Women will focus on your clothing and looks, yes, but that’s not all. They want to see that you look after yourself, are healthy and clean. They pay attention to detail, so ensure your fingernails are clean and your nose hairs trimmed.
No.7 Your Friends
"Birds of a feather flock together" rings true when it comes to how women rate you. When scoping you out, you can be sure your girlfriend’s friends are also going to be taking a look at the quality of the company you keep. They will be checking to see that your friends are ambitious, kind, self-sufficient and all-around good guys. Ensure you leave the drunks, crass men, heavy partygoers and bums at home for this evening, okay? You really don’t want them to reflect negatively on you.
No.8 Your Similarities To Her Exes
Do you have the same charm that her ex-boyfriend Billy did? Or do you seem to be boyishly shy, like Ted? Her friends know all about the dating disasters your girlfriend has been involved in, so they’re going to be noticing how you fare when compared to her exes. There’s not much you can do to prevent this -- how were you to know you had Roger’s smile and intelligence? But all you can do is be yourself, and if they seem to compare you to someone’s negative traits, prove them wrong.
No.9 Your Flirting
Yes to being charming, but no to flirting. Often the line blurs a tad, so ensure you keep your charm in check. If you’re a little too friendly with her friends, they’ll be hearing the word “player” sounding off in their heads. As you know, any whiff of playerinclinations in their camp will immediately drag your first impression down a few notches. Be fun and take an interest in their lives, but don’t stare at them like you’re body-searching them with your eyes, make any physical contact or single out one of her friends (the hottest, naturally) to talk to.
No.10 Your Strong Opinions
You have strong opinions about certain things, such as your take on religion or how President Obama should be running the country, but when you first meet your girlfriend’s friends, you want to go easy with your views. Coming on too strongly can clash with the light, general conversation that first meetings encourage. Yes, you want to be your usual brainy self, but women will often be turned off if your conversation is too overwhelming or heavy. Apart from religion and politics, it’s in your best interest to leave sex and typically male jokes off the table.
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