Tips for After the First Date

Be honest after a first date to open yourself up to the possibility of a relationship.
First dates can either leave you looking to see the person a second time or hoping to never see the person again. Whatever your experience, it is important to behave politely after the first date, whether or not you had a good time. The way you act after that first meeting can make or break a relationship, so you need to be prepared to be kind and receptive in order to see the other person for another date.
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• Open Yourself Up to Future Dates

Let your date know you enjoyed the time together before ending the date. You can call to thank him within the days following the date to let him know you are interested in seeing him again. Call once and allow him to contact you afterwards. He will contact you if interested. Try to avoid coming across as needy or moving too fast and remember that you barely know each other and it may make the other person uncomfortable if you act too comfortable too soon. Avoid acting as if you need or miss him; instead, just respond with an interested tone and be friendly when he contacts you.

• Make Plans for Another Date

If your date appears to be interested, you can ask to make the second date. Sometimes a date may be confused about whether or not you are interested and may hold back on asking for another date. If he's given you signs that he's interested in the days following your date, such as initiating phone calls or text messages to talk to you, ask him if he'd like to go out again. Let him know which days you are available and ask him which day works for him for a second date.

• Don't Set Expectations Too Soon

Remember that you've just started dating the person and it may be too soon to jump to conclusions or set expectations. Even if you got along well, people often put their guard up and act a certain way until they are more comfortable around someone. If he's said something you don't agree with, let him know. He may be nervous and just trying to be funny, or saying what they think you'd like to hear. Often, telling your date that you didn't like what he said can help him learn what to avoid saying in the future.


It helps to avoid daydreaming about the future or setting expectations after the first date. Perhaps you can see yourself getting serious with this person, but maybe they are looking for something different. Go into the beginning of a relationship with low expectations, and build your goals with the person when things become more serious. Otherwise, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment if they turn out to be different than you thought they were.

• Move On If It Doesn't Work Out

If your date makes it clear that he didn't enjoy the date and isn't interested in seeing you again, move on. Sometimes, people feel as though they can somehow convince their dates to become interested and see them again. Such attempts usually push the other person away and make you come across as needy. First impressions are important, and if someone makes up his mind about you on the first date it will be difficult to change that impression. It is best in these situations to move on and meet new people to go on dates with.

• Be Polite in All Situations

If you didn't enjoy the first date, try to politely let the other person know that you don't want to go out again. If you barely know him, you can kindly tell him that you just didn't feel a connection. You may wish to tell him the exact reason you don't want to see him again, but sometimes it is nicer to just spare his feelings if you don't feel that your words will help him somehow. You can politely email or phone him to let him know that you had a good time but aren't interested in building a relationship with him. It is best to do this over the phone instead of in person to avoid any confrontation with the person that you've just met.


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